the weepies...

There has to be something, a feeling, soft spoken words, a spark, chemistry, that something special.

These are all things we come to expect from love. The love that we see our friends experience. The love that we see on television shows and in movies. We have come to expect that we too will have that moment, the moment where you look into someone's eyes and you know that you are meant to be forever.

But what happens if time after time you fail to have the "you're the one I will end up with moment". Now I'll admit that I have previously convinced myself that I have had this moment on countless occasions, but this week my small group at church had a dinner and the topic of my relationship status came up. Now it's the holidays, and I tend to think the worst of people who end it around the holidays. But one of the girls who I am happy to call a friend spoke up and gave me some of the best advice I've heard in a awhile.

"You have to do this for yourself. Do you really want to spend another holiday with someone you aren't on the same page with? The only reason you have to have when you end it with someone is that he wasn't 'the one'."

Now, with that being said, I have to consider if I believe in this "one". Is there really a soul mate out there that I'm destined to be with? Is there really someone who will give me that "complete" feeling in life? We grow up believing that there is such a connection out there and that we are destined to find it early in life. But what if we don't find it...what if we wind up thinking there is that one and we DON'T find it.

Opposite side of the spectrum. We have a girl in our group that has been on several dating websites two times or more and has remained unsuccessful in love. Is she setting the bar to high to find her soul mate, or is she turning down the good things because we all believe in this promise that our epic love story is out there waiting to be made.


"But you and me walk on
cause you can't go back now
and yeah, yeah, go where you want to go
be what you want to be,
If you ever turn around, you'll see me."

But look at how far we have come...